Meeting People With The Right Frame Of Mind
© David Newton
Friday, March 26, 2010
One of the things I see a lot at singles social functions – and some other events in a more general sense is that some attendees can be too shy at a party or social event, then wind up talking with only 2 or 3 people the entire evening.
They come home feeling more disillusioned saying to themselves; “”Well at least I went out tonight”, but their lack of results plagues them, and sets in even more disbelief that meeting a new partner is a long way off, if not almost impossible.
What Can Turn This Around?
Firstly, its your frame of mind – that separates you from either getting results or staying in limbo. You need to leave your front door acting and feeling like a winner with a definite goal in mind that you’ll achieve hell or high water.
That goal could be to talk with and get 3 phone numbers and or dates before you leave the function you’re attending or to have a goal to really enjoy and attract a similar like minded partner at the event. Either way, you want something to shoot for that you’ll be
You might be wanting to break the ice and converse with a potential partner who really moves you and turns you on by way of their attitude and good looks.
But how do you gain that all important mind set that attracts people to you?
Here’s A Few Easy Workable Ideas You Could Try: -
1. Play some uplifting and souls motivating music before you leave home to go to the event.
2. Listen to an audio from a motivational speaker – such as Tony Robbins before you go out.
3. Dress your very best and look the part of success – even if you first don’t feel like it.
4. Talk with an uplifting supportive friend – even if its juts on the phone, before you go to the event
5. Have a contact goal that you’ll aim for on the night – make it interesting and just a tad challenging to chase after.
As the old saying by Sun Tzu says, “Battles are won, before they are even fought”, is a truism here. You have to think like a winner and be committed to success if you want the success to come your way.
Your desire is part of the key to success here. If you really desire a better life and new friends, then follow up with an expectation of getting lucky. People will notice a person who is committed to success, they stand out from the crowd, they hold themselves differently, and they attract a positive response from others and often get it. Because they hold their whole demeanour in a successful manner, others feel more inclined to give them whatever they want, almost without question too.
The converse is also true, nobody wants to help somebody “struggling” to gain success. Its actually harder work to be with a person who is downtrodden and feeling lucked out on life. Especially, if you’re the positive minded one. A positive minded person will lose energy levels fast by hanging around negative outlook people. Worse still if those people have an axe to grind about social issues that they feel “victim” to in their life.
Balance Time With Your Friends
If you create a list of friends who are upbeat and positive minded to hang out with you should be spending at least 80% or more of your time with them. Better still if they are your social peers who challenge you to succeed in your goals and dreams.